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Porn Addiction Has a Negative Impact on Real Sex Life

Sep 20, 2014 1 Comment by

Author: (Note to readers: this letter is pretty racy—a là Dr. Ruth Westheimer–and I would not advise younger readers to continue) Dear Papabear, How can I get a grip on my sexuality? Since I was a teenager, I have been looking at porn to let out my sexual frustrations. While I have heard about studies […]

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She Feels Rejected Because of Her Disability and Her Appearance

Sep 18, 2014 2 Comments by

Author: Hi Papabear, I’ve written you before, regarding my inability to make friends. Don’t worry I won’t pester you with that again. I’ve accepted that it isn’t going to work out. Anyway, my apologies for pestering you again, I just was wondering if you had any advice on contending with rejection. It’s just, I’ve been […]

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He Feels His Mental Health Issues Are Keeping Him from Living a Good Life

Sep 16, 2014 1 Comment

Author: First off… I love what you do, helping others. Keep doing what you’re doing and I’ll keep reading. Now, to the real reason I’m typing this up. Asking for help. There are so many things wrong with me right now I can’t even begin to pick just one. Let’s see… Father hung himself a […]

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His Sexuality Is Making Life Tumultuous for Him … but There Is a Path to Peace

Sep 12, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hi There, Papabear.  Just to give you an overview: Bi: married a girl -> had kids -> Divorced -> now with a guy = omg! I heard you help people, well I could sure use some to put it mildly. You might wanna buckle your seatbelt for this one.  I’m in a new relationship. […]

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She Could Resolve His Need for Online Role Playing by Indulging His Fantasies in Real Life (Followed by a Reversal)

Sep 10, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hello Papa Bear, I have a problem I’m not sure if it is common or not. I’ve been with my significant other for almost two years, and we live together. But, I get nervous with them contacting other people and making friends, and my biggest worry is online role playing. Both he and I […]

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Bi Furry from Mexico Likes a Guy Who Is Afraid of His Own Sexuality

Sep 08, 2014 2 Comments

Author: Hey Papabear… er… well first of all, I’m bi, and I have this friend let’s call him E one day in a gathering with some friends after he came back from a trip I gave him oral sex … more than once (I’m trying not to be detailed, I promise) and we’ve done it […]

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His Depressed Mate Won’t Seek Help

Sep 06, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Papabear, So my boyfriend and I have been together for a whole year now and we’ve gone through a lot of hard situations but now we’re stuck. I’m living with him and his parents. The issue is, he doesn’t have a job. He lost his job in December of last year and I’ve been […]

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He Needs to Try Again before Giving Up on This Relationship

Sep 04, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hey Papa Bear, Nice someone gives advices for people who are stuck in their situations. Sorry about my English; it was better some years ago. I was searching the web and was directed to your site. So I thought: Give it a try! ^^ Well here is the situation: There was a girl, I […]

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Spiritual Furry Feels Alienated at His Local Furmeet

Sep 02, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papabear, I’ve been feeling a little disenfranchised with the Furry Community of late.  I have long defended it, stating that the stereotypes aren’t the majority. But recently I summoned up some guts to go to a local furmeet and each of the individuals there were so bizarre, so maladjusted, so stereotype-encompassing that I […]

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He’s Nervous about Asking Coworker on First Date

Aug 31, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papabear, Thank you for reading this letter. The last time I sent you a letter you helped me a lot in picking my fursona according to my personality, and I must say that I feel accomplished now. However, the dilemma I now face has nothing to deal with fursonas or the Furry Fandom […]

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Young Mormon Worries Whether She Might Be Transgender

Aug 29, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Is my mind telling me I’m transgender? For the past 2 weeks I have been having serious thoughts on whether or not I’m a male in a female body. I haven’t told anyone about my feelings yet, but I plan on telling my therapist next month. He’s very open minded. For one, I’m not […]

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Using Other People’s Art, and Dress Codes in School and Public Places

Aug 27, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hello, Papa Bear.  I’m impressed that someone from this subculture has taken up such a supportive role in the community. My question is one of public display of our art, and of my own appearance. Firstly, in the legality of the matter, and secondly, one of tact. Firstly, I carry a notebook with print-outs […]

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The Magic Bank

Aug 25, 2014 1 Comment

Author: I don’t usually post stuff like this, but I felt this particular email I received from a friend was very relevant to what I do here at Ask Papabear. Imagine that you had won the following  *PRIZE* in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $ 86,400 in your private account for your use. However, […]

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Isolated Furry Having Trouble Connecting

Aug 23, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Papabear, Hello, I am 32 from Elmira, NY and I have been in the fandom for almost 20 years in one way or another.. recently I attended my first con which was Anthrocon, and since then I have been feeling lonely in the fandom. I think it might have been that I actually got […]

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