Archive for Editorial

He’s Nervous about Asking Coworker on First Date

Aug 31, 2014 1 Comment by

Author: Dear Papabear, Thank you for reading this letter. The last time I sent you a letter you helped me a lot in picking my fursona according to my personality, and I must say that I feel accomplished now. However, the dilemma I now face has nothing to deal with fursonas or the Furry Fandom […]

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Young Mormon Worries Whether She Might Be Transgender

Aug 29, 2014 1 Comment by

Author: Is my mind telling me I’m transgender? For the past 2 weeks I have been having serious thoughts on whether or not I’m a male in a female body. I haven’t told anyone about my feelings yet, but I plan on telling my therapist next month. He’s very open minded. For one, I’m not […]

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Using Other People’s Art, and Dress Codes in School and Public Places

Aug 27, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hello, Papa Bear.  I’m impressed that someone from this subculture has taken up such a supportive role in the community. My question is one of public display of our art, and of my own appearance. Firstly, in the legality of the matter, and secondly, one of tact. Firstly, I carry a notebook with print-outs […]

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The Magic Bank

Aug 25, 2014 1 Comment

Author: I don’t usually post stuff like this, but I felt this particular email I received from a friend was very relevant to what I do here at Ask Papabear. Imagine that you had won the following  *PRIZE* in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $ 86,400 in your private account for your use. However, […]

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Isolated Furry Having Trouble Connecting

Aug 23, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Papabear, Hello, I am 32 from Elmira, NY and I have been in the fandom for almost 20 years in one way or another.. recently I attended my first con which was Anthrocon, and since then I have been feeling lonely in the fandom. I think it might have been that I actually got […]

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He Feels Too Much Like a “Weirdo” to Ask Her Out

Aug 21, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papabear, Before I start I want to thank you for doing this. At the moment I don’t have anybody I can talk to but I really need to get this off my chest and hope it somehow helps. Also, I tried to send you this letter a few days ago but your note […]

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Furries and HIV – Revisited

Aug 20, 2014 15 Comments

The furry community is often perceived to be at risk of a HIV outbreak because we are closely sexually interconnected, far more so than a normal social group. Fear is a natural response. All people are naturally risk averse. We prefer to pretend that scary things like HIV don’t exist. We prefer to be ignorant. We can no longer afford this luxury.

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Should She Tell the Other Woman that He Hit on Her First?

Aug 19, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Hello there, I’m so happy to find this website. Its a bliss! So my problem is I have a close guy friend and he told me not too long ago that he has a crush on a mutual friend we both have. But there was a problem. She’s still in love with her ex, […]

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Papabear Helps a Furry Pick His Fursona

Aug 17, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papabear, How are you? I found your website while browsing the internet searching for a solution to my problem, and from what I can gather, you seem to be the right person to assist me. I have been a furry for many years now. I often participated in furry events and was also […]

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A Catholic in Italy Is Anxious about Coming Out to His Family

Aug 15, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papabear, I really appreciate the support and advice you are giving to many people that are facing difficult times. I’m a 24-year-old Italian guy and time ago I realized I was bisexual… but mostly attracted to men. I’m still in the closet and I want to ask for your advice because I’m becoming […]

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He Reminds Papabear of Pepe Le Pew

Aug 13, 2014 No Comments

Author: Hi Papa Bear. I must first admit that I really like what you are doing. To answer so many questions for so many people and don’t ask to be paid for that is something that should be really cherished by people and you deserve all my respect for doing so.  Second, I want to […]

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Child Abuse in the Past Stands in the Way of What Could Be a Happy Relationship

Aug 11, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Good Evening, Papabear My name is Sabrina and I’ve heard about you from a friend IRL and she told me you can help with problems and this one deals with my brother Kyle. He’s going out with a guy named Chris; there’s nothing wrong with him and the two of them get along so […]

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What to Do When Someone Is Suicidal and All You Have Is Their Social Media Name

Aug 09, 2014 4 Comments

Author: Dear Papa Bear, As always, the words “thank you” cannot express how grateful myself and many others are to you for reading our letters and giving us some wise advice. I have a shorter but important question today. This came up because relatively recently an online friend of mine has been having a rough […]

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Think about This before Interfering with a Friend’s Love Life

Aug 07, 2014 1 Comment

Author: Dear Papa Bear, First off, I would like to say I greatly enjoy reading your column. Now onto my problem. A few days ago, one of my friends (for simplicity’s sake, I’ll call her “Fox”) messaged me and some other friends via Facebook that she met a guy (I’ll call him “Lion”) and was […]

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